Dating the age of rocks
By her own admission, Judy Hollis's behaviour was thoughtlessly promiscuous.
'For a year,' she says, 'I fooled around, sleeping with more than ten men.
For me, in my 50s, the idea of taking my clothes off in front of a man who wasn't my husband was absolutely terrifying.
Like many newly divorced women I've spoken to, it wasn't that she'd developed a voracious appetite for dating, but that in doing so she found an effective distraction from the pain of divorce.She explains: 'I'd never even slept with anyone other than my husband, and suddenly I found myself using sex with men to make me feel better about myself.' Judy joined a couple of internet dating sites and found it surprisingly easy to meet men in their 40s and 50s who wanted no-strings flings.But it's not necessarily what most women are after.We met online and within a week we'd met under the guise of going for drinks - alcohol gave us both confidence and we ended up back at my house.'He didn't stay the night, but he did send an email the following day thanking me for a "fun evening".
But it's primarily down to the significant increase in people getting divorced after the age of 45 - forcing flocks of inexperienced divorcees out into the dating world after decades of monogamy.